In fact, it might make you feel worse. It could backfire. You are wasting precious time. How can you make way for new, positive experiences if you are preoccupied with wreaking havoc? Because, karma. Whether you believe in it or not, karma makes a much better friend than a foe — make sure to keep on the right side of it: 6. You could get caught in an endless revenge loop. So, is revenge worth it? See what people are saying. What is revenge? What is an example of revenge?
Is revenge good for you? Me and my group of friends always were very close, and I had a friend inside of that group that I really connected with. A couple weeks ago, i was really strugling with mental health still kinda am, but thats not the point , and did something bad directly unrelated to that friend and she got […]. Hey, making this to ask, If anything bad happens what helps you calm down?
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Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. Welch had opposed the death penalty before his daughter was killed, but he reversed his stance as he tried to cope with his loss in the weeks following the bombing. I thought the federal government and prosecutors were useless and I just wanted them fried. Welch, who owned a service station in Oklahoma City at the time, said he was so grief-stricken and had such a hard time dealing with his loss that he would go home and drink to try to get himself to fall asleep.
His drinking gradually increased. One day, about 10 months after Julie's death, Welch went to the bomb site — which he routinely visited because that was the last place where his daughter was alive — and began to examine himself and search for a way to get past his grief. He found that he was being consumed that the same rage and thirst of revenge that had driven McVeigh and Nichols to blow up the Murrah Federal Building and kill his daughter.
Do I need to have a conviction? Do I need to have McVeigh and Nichols executed? They were getting revenge for what happened in Waco, Texas, exactly two years earlier on April 19, " — when U. Still, society constantly seems to be in a constant tug of war between seeking revenge and "turning the other cheek. But pop culture celebrates vigilantism and stories where the heroes are driven by revenge. All superheroes are vigilantes. Comic book protagonists such as Batman and Spider-Man are motivated by a desire to avenge the death of a loved one or seek vengeance for those who are perceived as helpless — and they are two of the most popular superheroes of all time.
Quentin Tarantino's latest film, Kill Bill — Vol. Some argue that experiencing revenge, even through works of fiction, does not ease feelings of anger and vengeance. It increased those feelings of anger and retribution.
So how does someone cope with a need for revenge? The first, and perhaps most important, step is taking responsibility for your emotions, like Bud Welch did. It's very important for the person to take responsibility for their anger and resentment. Researchers are gradually getting some answers, and they are finding that revenge has some unexpected upsides.
Revenge is a powerful emotional trigger that mobilises people into action. Hamlet's quest is motivated by revenge, like so many stories throughout history Credit: Getty Images. And it shapes politics too. Donald Trump's presidential victory, for instance, came as a result of "revenge of working-class whites… who felt abandoned by a rapidly globalising economy," according to an article in the Washington Post.
The same sentiment is echoed by many other outlets. While the topic of aggression is well-studied — its triggers include alcohol , being insulted and narcissistic personality traits — revenge is lesser understood.
It is not easy to untangle from violent behaviour, making it a difficult topic to study. David Chester of Virginia Commonwealth University was initially studying aggression but quickly realised that there is often a lot more going on before a violent interaction. He refers to the emotions involved as the "psychological middlemen" — the thoughts and feelings that come between a provocation and an aggressive outcome. He set out to uncover more about what causes it.
First he, along with his colleague Nathan DeWall of the University of Kentucky, discovered that a person who is insulted or socially rejected feels an emotional pain.
The area in the brain associated with pain was most active in participants who went on to react with an aggressive response after feeling rejected. In a follow-up study he was surprised to find that emotional pain was intricately yoked with pleasure. That is, while rejection initially feels painful, it can quickly be masked by pleasure when presented with the opportunity to get revenge — it even activates the brain's known reward circuit, the nucleus accumbens.
People who are provoked behave aggressively precisely because it can be "hedonically rewarding", Chester found. Revenge it seems really can be sweet. Richard Nixon was well-known for his list of foes Credit: Getty Images. The link between aggression and pleasure itself is not new. The "father of psychology" Sigmund Freud was well aware that it could feel cathartic to behave aggressively, but the idea that revenge provides its own special form of pleasure has only become apparent recently.
To understand this further, Chester and DeWall set up a series of experiments , published in the March journal of Personality and Social Psychology, where the participants were made to feel rejected by being purposely left out of a computerised ball tossing game. All participants were then allowed to put pins in a virtual voodoo doll. Those in the rejected camp stabbed their doll with significantly more pins.
This rejection test was first done remotely online and later replicated with different participants brought into the lab. In the lab version, rather than a voodoo doll, participants acted out their "revenge" by blasting a prolonged, unpleasantly loud noise to their opponents who were computers, not real people, which the participants were not aware of.
Again, those that felt most rejected subjected their rivals to longer noise blasts. Lastly, to understand the role of emotion in the desire to seek revenge, Chester and DeWall gave participants what they believed was a mood-inhibiting drug it was in fact only a harmless vitamin tablet. Still, the placebo effect was so strong that the participants who took the "drug" didn't bother to retaliate against the people who rejected them — whereas those that were not given the placebo acted far more aggressively.
The placebo group, it seems, did not seek revenge because they believed they would feel no pleasure from doing so. Taking these results together the team came to a startling conclusion. Not only can revenge give people pleasure, but people seek it precisely because of the anticipation it will do so.
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